Comments on: Are UBF Leaders Cult Leaders? http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/ for friends of University Bible Fellowship Wed, 21 Oct 2015 04:34:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.3.1 By: Mark Mederich http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17858 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 20:03:33 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17858 cultaDOOBADOOYAH?

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17358 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 23:28:39 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17358 Thanks, Joe, for your gift of using words eloquently that virtually expresses my own sentiments almost exactly: “I did and do bear responsibility for what went on, for the abusive practices and scapegoating. For better or worse, UBF and I are still joined somehow. Although for many reasons I must distance myself from the organization, it would be unhealthy for me to say that the problem was entirely theirs. I was a victim, but I was also a perpetrator.” – See more at: http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17357

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By: Joe Schafer http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17357 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 23:02:29 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17357 Yes that post by James V was an interesting read. I saw it years ago, but had forgotten about it. I remember “Reverend Isaiah Yoo” as he was called. I may have vene shared a hotel room with him at one of the North American staff conferences. One year, he vanished and CSUN UBF was never spoken of again, and I never thought to ask what happened, because I never thought to ask questions.

One thought that occurred to me was something that Chris has pointed out about the Reformers. When they left UBF, but they carried a great deal of it with them; they apparently didn’t take time to reflect and examine what happened to them or rethink their approach or refresh their understanding of the gospel. A person can get out of UBF, but it UBF stays within the person.

This is why, in the article I posted today, I tried to express that I did and do bear responsibility for what went on, for the abusive practices and scapegoating. For better or worse, UBF and I are still joined somehow. Although for many reasons I must distance myself from the organization, it would be unhealthy for me to say that the problem was entirely theirs. I was a victim, but I was also a perpetrator. UBF did not change me into a monster. When they found me, what they found was a little baby monster, and they fed me big bowls of monster chow. UBF used me for selfish reasons, and I used UBF for selfish reasons.

It is also ironic to read that Samuel Lee rebuked Isaiah Yoo for comingling UBF funds with church funds, when Lee comingled ministry funds with his own personal accounts in ways that no one, even the people closest to him, could ever see. He would often give people monetary gifts, writing them checks from his personal bank account, and where those funds came from, no one really knows, and will never know, because no detailed records were kept.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17356 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 22:49:32 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17356 Charles, you strike me as having many traits that some UBF leaders may not mind for themselves, but would not like in you especially if you expressed them: http://www.ubfriends.org/2013/06/20/traits-ubf-leaders-do-not-like/

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By: c http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17355 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 22:15:18 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17355 I see, thanks. Just to clarify, it was under the new director, John Kwon, that I left. But that isn’t to say there weren’t issues being voiced while Isaac was the director. And it was not just because of issues with the LA chapter but with the many issues noted just on this site in many places and how UBF corporate has responded. I suppose Isaac does have a strong personality. I do too.

I’ve read that post by James V. It captures an interesting time in west coast UBF. I came to UBF right as Isaiah Yoo was heading out. My first conference was his last where he announced he was splitting away from UBF.

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17353 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 21:43:18 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17353 The context. I asked someone if they knew of a Charles on the west coast and his problems with the chapter. The person said no. Then I said it is ran by somebody named Isaac Kim. The person cut me off and said “He must have had a hard time. Isaac Kim has a strong personality.”

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17352 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 21:40:14 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17352 Oh I got the wrong guy for the money- looks like someone named Isaiah. But Isaac Kim is briefly mentioned here.

http://exubf.blogspot.com/2007/04/james-v-former-csun-ubf.html

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By: Mark Mederich http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17347 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 20:25:37 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17347 “I have read stories about how Issac Kim stole lots of money and was so authoritarian that even missionaries couldn’t deal with him.”

OWSER, OWSERDOOBADOOYAH

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By: c http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17334 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 17:29:14 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17334 Interestingly, after leaving the LA chapter, a few people questioned me on whether I now say that UBF is a cult and whether even local leaders are cult leaders. What first came to mind was a quote from Toy Story 2, where Woody says to Jessie, “If the boot fits!” But I didn’t want to talk about labels. Rather than worry about how you’re being labeled, why not honestly address the very real issues of mistreatment and abuse? The question of whether UBF leaders are cult leaders or not became another method of dismissal, intentional or not.

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By: c http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17332 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 16:46:08 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17332 Brian, it’s very interesting how you get access to information like this.

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By: c http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17331 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 16:44:49 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17331 forests, as you sure that was said of Isaac Kim of LA? I’ve never heard of money being stolen, although I did hear he was very authoritarian in the past. But how you described him doesn’t sound like the person I came to know and work with for the last 10+ years. In my travels with him, he was always well received by missionaries.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17330 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 19:42:40 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17330 Even if IK was the nominee, he would still need to be ratified by the IAM body with at least 2/3rds majority, which likely would have happened, since in UBF longstanding members have generally tended to support, approve of and ratify “whoever God appointed.”

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17328 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 17:09:00 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17328 I have read stories about how Issac Kim stole lots of money and was so authoritarian that even missionaries couldn’t deal with him. Could be wrong about the exact guy though. When I mention his name to missionaries they know who he is, yet I have never heard a good thing said of him when they speak.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17327 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 13:43:01 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17327 Isaac Kim (LA) was the other choice. He lost by a large margin. It was great to read the 2 candidates’ testimonies about how they would lead ubf. ATK was the clear choice if reform had any chance of continuing. IK would have made my life very exciting, so I’m glad now ATK won. Now I can forget about ubf and truly move on.

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By: Mark Mederich http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17322 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 13:14:32 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17322 gee heard it first here:) didn’t even know he was in the running to continue:) likeable guy but like forerunners no resolution/guts to usher change, so business as usual I guess..HAPPY EASTER!

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By: Gajanan Nial http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17321 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 11:21:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17321 You are right. When I said I am not celebrating Good Friday and Easter, I meant not as annual festivals of a religion. But I do celebrate and draw inspiration from the death and resurrection of Jesus.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17320 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 10:13:38 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17320 Yes, I did get to vote. So did everyone else in the IAM for the first time. It’s good that you posted what you did. I’m not sure if Easter is why comments might be down. Perhaps so. imo, celebrating Easter is simply celebrating or commemorating what Jesus did for us. But then again, this is what Christians should be celebrating every day, all year round, every year!

I only knew fwiw as “For what it’s worth.” I learned from you that there are three others!

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By: Gajanan Nial http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17319 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 05:51:49 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17319 btw, Ben, you made me search the internet for the meaning of “fwiw” and there are so many of it:

For what it’s worth.
For whoever is wondering.
From what I’ve witnessed.
Forgot where I was.

Which one (or how many of the above) did you mean? :)

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By: Gajanan Nial http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17318 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 05:38:35 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17318 Did you get to vote, Ben? Thanks for your response. I don’t like democracy and would prefer servant-leadership modeled after Jesus’ own example, but until the Kingdom fully manifests, so it be.

On a second thought, I regret posting the above comment. Perhaps I was overcome… God bless me!

I realized that most ubfriends are offering golden silence during this holy week, whereas I am trying to keep the pot boiling!

Perhaps it happened because I am not celebrating Good Friday and Easter, as I haven’t yet found any clear instruction in the scripture to do so.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17317 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 22:12:03 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17317 fwiw, this year’s process of electing a new GD has actually been far more transparent than previously. Also, more people had a say than in the past when someone was simply nominated (selected, chosen) and everyone supposedly “unanimously agreed.”

Though we might still have some ways to go for a fully transparent democratic process, it was certainly less clandestine and less politically motivated than previously. Yes, those who voted (over 90 people of the International Advisory Members) actually did have a choice between two candidates, which had never happened before.

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By: Gajanan Nial http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17303 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 17:26:42 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17303 Did you see “Announcement of Voting Result for General Director of UBF”? http://ubf.org/announcements/north-america/announcement-voting-result-general-director-ubf

So white smokes have arisen over ubf’s pristine chapel; the illuminated College of Cardinals has finally chosen ATK as the Bishop of UBF for one more tern. The link says he was elected but who was the opponent, how many votes he secured and why the electors chose him for a second term are top secrets …. Shhhhh!!!

What a way to choose the spiritual leader (or cult leader?) of an organization! Shouldn’t his achievements of the last term be shared with the world?

Should democracy be exercised in choosing spiritual leaders? When Jesus finally declared himself as the King of the Jews in no ambiguous words, he had zero votes in his favor (Jn 18:37).

Well, the King decides in the kingdom of God, but for the kingdom of this world, we need networking and voting, of course.
Nothing less than a secret society.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17301 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 16:49:33 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17301 So wikipedia is supposed to be about “what other people say about you” not “what you say about yourself”. This blows the ubf mind, hence the repeated attempts to blank out entire sections.

Thanks for watching this forests, but there’s no need to worry. The wikiadmins get notified if there is more blanking. They will take care of it.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17300 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 16:45:02 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17300 Ben, anyone can edit anything on wikipedia with some nuances. If you have a COI (conflict of interest) you will have a difficult time editing your own article. Only certain people are “wikiadmins”. They are a highly educated, rather advanced alien tribe of people who often speak many languages. They catch everything :) They don’t like self-published or self-promoted material. And they tend to remove things that are not academically provable.

Forests, yes that long string is your ip address. It is the new “ipv6” format. The internet came close to running out of the old ip addresses in the old “ipv4” format. Most everyone now has either both or just ipv6.

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By: Darren Gruett http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17299 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 15:41:35 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17299 This little exchange between you two was the humor I needed to brighten up my day. And what a nice little lesson about the value of honesty and grace.

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By: Mark Mederich http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17294 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 13:03:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17294 justgetthejobadoneyah!

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17290 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 01:48:23 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17290 Short answer is no. All you need to do is go to edit and anyone can change anything. That is unless it’s a controversial page and it can’t be edited, this is called protected. That’s easy.

What is a little more complicated is deciphering past edits. I was trying to see if anyone had removed anything important about ubf being cult- like (and accidentally did that exact thing). What I did was went to history at the top and you can see all the edits people did. If someone vandalizes them (that means deleting large parts of it for no reason) then you can undo the edit and give a reason. Here I undid a revision (that’s the -4584, it means I deleted something) then I undid my own revision (that’s the +4584). I think 2602:30A:2C61:D2D0:71C2:A81C:D28F:26EF is my ip address (BrianK can correct me) which can be tracked here. http://www.iplocation.net/

(cur | prev) 03:20, 26 March 2015‎ 2602:30a:2c61:d2d0:71c2:a81c:d28f:26ef (talk)‎ . . (10,597 bytes) (+4,584)‎ . . (Undid revision 653555332 by 2602:30A:2C61:D2D0:71C2:A81C:D28F:26EF (talk)) (undo)
(cur | prev) 03:15, 26 March 2015‎ 2602:30a:2c61:d2d0:71c2:a81c:d28f:26ef (talk)‎ . . (6,013 bytes) (-4,584)‎ . . (Undid revision 648621495 by 331dot (talk) This is important information to know.) (undo)

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17287 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 00:48:11 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17287 Is it hard to be a wiki editor? How tech and webpage savvy do I need to be? Is it hard to learn? I ask because I am probably as good a “ubf expert” as any, after being in ubf for 35 years and counting.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17286 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 00:20:57 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17286 Well what the heck. Thanks for being honest forests.

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17285 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 23:59:45 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17285 So the stupidity comment you mention is likely warranted here. :) Sorry.

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17284 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 23:57:33 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17284 Actually that was me by accident. I thought someone had deleted it (hence my “This is important information to know.” comment), but I am not wiki savey and saw the semi protected status had been lifted so I undid a previous change (which I thought deleted it the cult info. Looks like I undid the undoing of the deletion instead of undoing a deletion.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-17282 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 18:25:57 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-17282 Public notice to ubf people:

Removing parts of the Wikipedia article about your cult won’t help your cause. In fact, the removing of negative information is seen as vandalism on Wikipedia and will always be reverted.

Another information blanking attempt on the ubf Wikipedia article

If the Wiki blanking and internet scrubbing continues we must not only ask “Are ubf leaders cult leaders?” we must also ask “Are some ubf people stupid?”

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By: Mark Mederich http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15550 Sat, 18 Oct 2014 13:25:33 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15550 too much lukewarm consideration (which is really alternating hot/cold in myself & others over time); repent/do right, or forget it

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15541 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 15:21:19 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15541 Very well said Chris. +1

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By: Chris http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15540 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 15:15:44 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15540 Forest and Brian already gave good answers. The term “newly committed” needs some clarification. Somebody who has committed to take part in regular 1:1 and SWS could be considered “newly commited”. However, this is only the first stage of commitment. What UBF really wants of you is that you share a life testimony at a conference. UBF does everything so that this event becomes a two-in-one thing: First, it’s considered the point in time when you have been “born again”. But second, it’s also the point in time when you fully commit to being a UBF shepherd. These two events are melted into one. They try everything to bind the two things together: Your salvation and meaning in life and relationship with God and spiritual rebirth on the one hand, and your calling as a UBF shepherd and obedience to UBF on the other hand. Life as a UBF shepherd encompasses all the things that have been mentioned: Fishing on the campus, common life, arranged marriage etc. It’s not so much authoritarian pressure and peer pressure that keeps you doing these activities, but the idea they have at that time deeply implant into your mind that if you stop doing these activities, you leave your calling as UBF shepherd, and then you will also lose your salvation and meaning in life and relationship with God. That’s how it works. Added to that comes the other idea they implant into you, that UBF directors are “God’s servants” who are conveying the will of God to you. So if you don’t obey them, you stop obeying God, with the same consequences of losing your salvation and everything.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15535 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 01:49:19 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15535 And yes, I publicly admit that I was a cult leader, trying to build my own cult using ubf kingdom of priests and holy nation (KOPHAN) shepherding ideology and theology. My repentance is my blogging, my books and my exit counseling to ubf members who want to leave peacefully and safely. I pray no one has to endure the suicides and mental trauma that some former members have had to deal with.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15534 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 01:47:05 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15534 Yes forests, I would tend to agree with almost all of your assessments.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15533 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 01:39:13 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15533 “How does UBF enforce “doctrine quality control” in these circumstances? Or, do they at all?”

1) They usually do not care too much about doctrine quality. They care about their #1 values: loyalty to authority and obedience to your shepherd. Do that, and you can just about believe any doctrine you want.

2) They employ a subtle, often-hidden, six stage training program.

3) There have been 4 “reform” movements where leaders like me pointed out the problems with their flawed theology and practice. Those movements, in 1976, 1989, 2001 and 2011, have given the ubf leaders more Christian-sounding words. For example, all ubf chapters have a “chapter director” who is supposed to give training to the members of the chapter. But now they call this person (almost always a Korean) as a “pastor”.

4) ubf tends to study only parts of the bible in order to condition members to believe their 12 point slogan called “spiritual heritage”, as their own website shows.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15532 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 01:29:26 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15532 Hi David. The answer to all of your questions is yes. In fact that is a good summary of the authoritarianism and spiritual abuse that is rampant in ubf. The only better list of problems at ubf was given to me by a grandmother of a student: A Grandmother’s concerns about ubf.

How do I know? I was a ubf-man from 1987 to 2011 when I resigned. I rose up in the ranks from sheep, to bible teacher, to shepherd, to fellowship leader, to marriage by faith, to pioneering missionary, to chapter director.

I did all those things on your list. I and the other leaders made sure we had detailed lists of all members and sheep, and kept track of their daily activities. We kept “prayer lists” and discussed each person’s problems regularly.

I wrote three books about my recovery from this cultic ministry.

Even though things change on the surface, the harmful ubf shepherding theology in 2011 was no differnt from ubf shepherding theology in 1987.

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15531 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 01:14:56 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15531 Sorry, for the “doctrine quality control”. All activities are approved and sanctioned by the leader. Furthermore, other chapter leaders tend not to respond to claims, accusations,email or even concerns from members of other chapters. When someone gets out of line he is labeled as rebellious, and then nobody will listen to him. The bottom line is that anything said from the pulpit will be prescreened by the pastor, even if it is a personal reflection. Any objectionable material will not be allowed. More broadly when it appears chapter leaders themselves are changing tone or reconsidering traditional UBF golden calfs (1-1 bible study, testimony sharing, etc) there are always staff conferences that push this doctrine back. Those are ran by the most hardline of the hardline. People who are in their 70-80s and have been in UBF since college.

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By: forestsfailyou http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15530 Fri, 17 Oct 2014 01:01:51 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15530 Hello,
I will try to answer your questions as truthfully as I can. But honestly a lot of this depends on the character of your chapter.
1) No. At least not newly committed. As for as voluntary or peer pressured, that depends on the person- but both happen and either way it is seen as ok because it is fulfilling Mat 28:19.
1a) I have not seen this idea, but when I once had a conflict were my mother did not like a proposed UBF activity I was told not to talk to her about it and she would come around. This is generally how all issues are dealt with. Wait around and hope they change.
2) Yes. The idea is that Jesus’ disciples lived together so likewise UBF disciples should likewise. This is nearly a direct quote from Mark Yang’s book on discipleship. Common life “succeeds” when a “mature” (read: committed to UBF) person is places with a less “mature” brother. The more mature brother leads to less mature brother to become more like Jesus, which is redefined as someone who adheres to UBF policy.
3) I have not been in this position, but I could see it happening. When it looked as though I might get a job elsewhere the church prayed that I get the job nearby. Their prayers went unanswered, but I got accepted to grad school and stayed in the area anyways.
4) I have heard this, but I don’t believe it. I think the idea is that UBF very broadly defines missionary as anyone moving to another country who has the intent to do 1-1 bible study. This means that if someone is married to an American from Korea they get to call the Korean a “missionary” (even though “immigrant” is probably better). They see marriage as a way of fulfilling Mat 28:19. Another thing is that Korea has an abundance of people dedicated to UBF, where as in other countries that might not be the case. Since there is a general belief that marriage in UBF is for UBF, so it is just follows (in their mind) that we need to find a godly woman (or man) from Korea.
5) I will answer with a quote
“The proper good of a creature is to surrender itself to its creator…We are …rebels who must lay down our arms…We all remember this self-will as it was in childhood…hence the older type of nurse or parent was quiet right in thinking that the first step in education is ‘to break the child’s will’. THERE METHODS WERE OFTEN WRONG…” (my emphasis added)
There is a confusion that any means justify the end. For many UBF people they think that they are helping people become closer to Christ through “training” them. They see many passages in the new testament involving God disciplining his children, and conclude that they have will act as God’s agent. They will be like Paul was to Timothy, who called him his spiritual son. Their methods are carried out with joy, because they think this training produces Godliness. They think even if some boundary is overstepped, in the light of God I am justified. This was apparent when I studied the story of Rebekah tricking her husband to give Jacob the inheritance due to Esau. I was told that Rebekah’s lie was ok because God had told her that Jacob would be the son that would become Israel. They use an ends justify the means approach. This is not true everywhere, but it is more likely to be true the older your leader is, and closer he was to Samuel Lee.

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By: pekkle007 http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15529 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 22:40:48 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15529 Hello. I am new here. Forgive me if I’m what I’m about to bring up has already been talked about…

1.) Does UBF require “newly committed” follower/students to do outreach at college campuses? If so, is this voluntary or peer-pressured?

1a.) I have heard that outreach/recruitment activities are so time-consuming, ppl are taught that “UBF is your family now” to justify the time spent away from their own relatives.

2.) Is it true that UBF leaders “force” (thru peer pressure) ppl to have set roommates after college? I believe this is called, “Common Life”?

3.) Do UBF leaders “suggest” where newly college grads should live (in close proximity to a UBF church campus) and openly encourage/discourage the person’s acceptance of jobs?

4.) Do UBF leaders “suggest” marriage partners for members and “assign” them UBF members from foreign countries who need an American visa? I have read that quite often these ppl have no idea who they are marrying.

5.) If any of these items are still true, why do UBF ldrs feel they are not a cult, and simply “following the Bible”? After all, I don’t recall anywhere in the Bible where Jesus/the Disciples/Paul exercised so much control over ppl’s lives.

I have read many things. Most of which are highly critical of UBF. But I figured that I could be “set straight” here. And would appreciate honest answers.

Thank you,

David

P.S. I realize that some/most of these practices have probably happened at some pt in the history of UBF. How does UBF enforce “doctrine quality control” in these circumstances? Or, do they at all?

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15510 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 16:11:31 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15510 Such lists are eerie. My thoughts are that since we are blind to our own faults and demerits, it is quite likely that cultish or cult-like groups cannot “see it,” even if it is so plainly obvious to everyone else.

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By: BrianK http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-15506 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 16:19:56 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-15506 Not that we need another list to tell, but here is another list:

8 clues

1. Power is not shared.

2. Your needs and desires are denied.

3. If you don’t comply you will be ignored or worse.

4. Your discontent with the church is your fault.

5. Little encouragement but lots of put downs (called constructive criticism).

6. Doubts and questions are interpreted as betrayal.

7. Shame is used to keep you in line.

8. Your life feels micromanaged by the church.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-11238 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 10:19:55 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-11238 In my opinion, UBF might be “learning” (painfully, I might add) that too much control over UBF marriages does not sit well with this generation (or any generation?), and that many couples were badly traumatized and humiliated during the “marriage by faith humbleness training.” As a result, some left UBF after their marriage in UBF to join other churches, because of their painful marriage experience at the hands of their shepherds.

Let me say that my own marriage by faith experience in 1981 was happy and memorable, probably/perhaps because I was still “in shock” when I was getting married by faith (in God) to a person I did not know: http://www.ubfriends.org/2013/01/23/if-not-for-ubf-i-would-not-be-married/ My happy recollection is that God’s hand was on me and that I knew and felt that it was God’s will and God’s plan for me to marry Christy, despite all of my own fears and doubts.

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By: gc http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-11235 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 01:16:58 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-11235 They are an interesting counter example for sure Joshua but Montreal did slightly adjust their outward policies on such matters. There was one other couple who had been married a couple of years ago but they did so in their own church even though it was (maybe still is) that they serve for campus mission. I would like to emphasize the political tone to the posting however – notice that it says B. and S. – meaning brother and sister. So, then we will deduce that they are not YET shepherds – please tell me why? In any other community it would be normal to just say brother and sister, but here I know for a fact that whoever wrote the summary did so very deliberately. Language is coded unfortunately and it shows me that some things may never change.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-11234 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 00:48:40 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-11234 Hey Joshua, no I wasn’t thinking of anyone in particular. I didn’t even know about that couple. I try not to go to the ubf website; it still makes me want to punch the wall and rip out my hair :/

I’m just saying that this is the first weekend in October… so time for some ancestor worship and arranged marriages soon.

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By: joshua http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-11233 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 00:32:36 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-11233 I’m not sure if you have something particular in mind, but the wedding on ubf.org from Montreal was not arranged. The couple was together before entering UBF, as far as I recall. I know them; they have a interesting counter-example to the normal marriage-by-faith route, and have done so (as far as I can tell) in a very mature and God-honouring way, even though there was some contrary opinions along the way.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-11232 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 21:36:58 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-11232 [rant] ubf makes me SICK to my stomach and the ubf 12 point heritage comes straight from the pit of hell. [/rant]

Ok I feel better now. Still this weekend is a disgusting weekend for all of us former ubf members. We all know what this week is. Anyone up for some arranged marriages this week?

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-9770 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:39:39 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-9770 Just a note about what we are dealing with here… ubf is made up of a top layer of heritage-preserving leaders and a lot of what I call “pockets of protection”. It is important to not break those pockets. My hope is for an outpouring of gospel grace and love and justice, but if we break the pockets, people will be harmed by our “troublemaking”.

The insight the Spirit gave in 2011 was to connect the pockets of protection, by opening horizontal dialogues among ubf members. ubf directors prefer only vertical or one-way discussion. They are deathly afraid of mutual discussion, and multiple discussion networks.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-9765 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:09:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-9765 The TACO discussion already happened back in 2004. Chris gave some wonderful insight. That discussion was something that helped open my eyes and begin my journey of recovery from University Bible Fellowship and the 12 point heritage, although I denied it at the time.

Call ubf what you want– the ubf ideology is a breeding ground for all kinds of abuse. The only time abuse does not happen in ubf is when people withdraw and protect themselves. People are unwilling to come out of those little pockets of protection out of fear and out of self-perservation.

The terms change (cult, NRM, TACO, abherrant, etc). but the facts remain. Until ubfers face the fact that their ideology is as good as dead (like Abraham did) then they will remain a wounding machine hidden behind fake smiles and gifts of kimchee.

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By: Joe Schafer http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-9763 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 13:17:42 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-9763 Ben, I know you love acronymns, so here’s another one to add to your vocabulary.

Roger Olson just posted an interesting article about “Unsafe Sects.”

For various reasons, he and many others are now reluctant to describe aberrant churches as cults. Rather, he suggests using the term “TACO”, which is an acronym for “Totalistic, Aberrational Christian Organization.”

He gives a nine-point checklist to help determine whether a group is a TACO. The first seven points are very descriptive of UBF. I’m not saying that all these things go on in every ubf chapter all the time. But I have seen them happen enough times in enough places to say that, yes, they do describe ubf. And leaders have shown show little or no resolve to root them out.

So I guess that UBF is a TACO.

The full article is here:

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/rogereolson/2013/08/t-a-c-o-s-anyone/

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-9363 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 15:55:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-9363 Joe, I read a rather insightful quote last week that reminded me of your mention of the classic line: “If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, what is it?”

The quote I just read says: “If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, but need batteries, you have the wrong abstraction.” (underneath a picture of a real duck and a toy duck with batteries.)

The parallels to my experience of the ubf heritage are obvious: It looks like Christianity, sounds like Christianity, but needs batteries (i.e. much pushing) in order to make it work. This is called the “Liskov Substitution Principle“. This principle is necessary for inductive thinking to work properly.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-8929 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 16:12:02 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-8929 Thanks, big bear, for this remarkable list of 10 warning signs of a “potentially unsafe leader” (or group): http://www.rickross.com/warningsigns.html

Interestingly, this does not just apply to churches but to any group or organization, where “someone” (autocracy) or an “exclusive group” (oligarchy) wants to have CONTROL over their group or organization.

Sadly, but not surprisingly, Christians in many churches may also display such “potentially unsafe (unhealthy)” characteristics. It almost seems like every single one of the “10 warning signs” can be individually written up as a stand alone article. I have already written about the first warning sign countless times: “Absolute authoritarianism without meaningful accountability.”

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By: Mark Mederich http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-8927 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 13:04:56 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-8927 Amen. Hallelujah!

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By: big bear http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-8922 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 11:24:42 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-8922 YES AND NO. It depends on the chapter and the leader. UBF has many clones of the founder…I believe they are cult leaders and many who love and serve Christ wholeheartedly and are sincere Christians are not cult leaders. The danger is in the clones. The clones are highly abusive and artificial. THIS COULD BE SAID ABOUT OTHER CHURCHES AS WELL. The answer is denounce the evil practices and create healthy bibical change.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-6417 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 11:13:57 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-6417 “Can this happen corporately in UBF one day?”

No. The chance to corporately repent was missed big time. What can happen through ubf now is that new movements could spawn. We are already seeing this happen, albeit rather slowly.

Consider this:

In 2002, Kip stepped down from ICOC. That kicked off 10 years of restructuring, corporate repentance and rethinking their shepherd/sheep relationships– and lead to some growth and some positive signs of becoming a healthy ministry.

In 2002, SLee died in a fire. That kicked off 10 years of enforcing the top-down single person leadership structure, preserving the ubf heritage and a renewed commitment to CME so that ubf authority is cemented through shepherd/sheep relationships– and lead to a fourth “crisis”/reform movement and a plethora of negative signs of becoming a cult.

[Note: If you don’t know what CME is, why are you in ubf? CME is a method used by hardliner ubf Koreans to galvanize conformance to ubf ideology and to enforce the preservation of the ubf heritage. I call it “Cult Management Education”. It is a graceful means of B.I.T.E control and indoctrination.]

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-6414 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 02:11:55 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-6414 Interesting stats on the ICOC:

“The ICOC’s reported membership hit a high of 135,000 in 2002 — the same year worldwide leader Kip McKean stepped aside.”

In ubf the ICOC came up from time to time among the leaders. We discussed how bad they were and how much better ubf was than ICOC. I was led to believe ICOC was a small, fringe movemnt that was disintegrating in the 90’s. But actually ICOC was growing and far more successful than ubf at recruiting college students. ubf has never (to my knowledge) exceeded 10,000 and is currently at around 8,000 worldwide. ICOC was well over 10 times bigger in 2002.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-6413 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 01:54:12 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-6413 I don’t see this current growth by the ICOC as something extremely healthy, based on the article and the comments.

I see ICOC supporters making the same kind of self-flattering statements as many ubf people:

“I am very thankful for my American brothers and sisters, in U.S.A., for sacrificing their lives for Jesus Christ and preaching God’s word to, almost, every major city, country and continent, around the world! I am thankful for my International brothers and sisters for raising up to lead God’s humble churches around the world and for, courageously, preaching God’s word boldly, in the face of persecution and hardships. You are my heroes in the faith! Praise God. May every disciple of Jesus Christ train and raise up a younger “Timothy” in God’s church- children, teens, campus, singles and marrieds, to be the future leaders and followers of Jesus Christ, in 2013. Will all the mighty men and women of God, please, stand up for Jesus Christ? Amen.”

And then there are voices of reality:

“Speaking of leadership, God hasn’t raised up new voices to lead his people in the last ten years? Of course God has raised up leaders, even though the icoc has gone from a one man show to a more collaborative effort, those same leaders from the past who encouraged the systemtic errors in our past are still involved in it’s recovery. I’m not suggesting they shouldn’t but similarly where are the new voices that will lead further. Have things improved? yes; but I think and know that there are more things that appear like the old icoc than this articles is trying to portray.”

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-6412 Sat, 20 Apr 2013 23:02:16 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-6412 Can this happen corporately in UBF one day? http://www.christianchronicle.org/article2159719~Revisiting_the_Boston_Movement:_ICOC_growing_again_after_crisis

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-6411 Sat, 20 Apr 2013 17:48:58 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-6411 Good thoughts, thanks for sharing Vitaly and Ben, Timothy and everyone.

Until ubf people rise up and demand accountability and request a mission statement that includes the word “Jesus”, ubf leaders will have to deal with the cult-leader label.

The last time I went “fishing” on campus many years ago, a student told me “I’m not joining a bible cult.” and walked away before I could even say “Hi, how are you?”

New ubf mission statement for the next 50 years does not mention Jesus

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-6384 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 19:45:24 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-6384 In regard to business mission and the massive business network that many ubf members are part of, someone should look into things like this company, which was formed by the same UBF people as the defunct CoWorld GMBH:

Nest41

* Notice how the Korean version of this website (click the upper righthand corner) has so much more detail. Notice the ubf-like “vision” and “ambition”. Note that the graphics in the mission, etc. sections look similar to the ubf training material (found on my website).

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5981 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 05:51:50 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5981 I am in UBF and I love my brothers and sisters in UBF. Over the last few years I began to also love my brothers and sisters who left UBF, which I did not before, probably because of my dualistic, “either you’re in or you’re out” way of thinking. I realize that God is far far bigger than my small brain, and definitely far bigger than UBF. It is embarrassing that it took me 3 decades of being a Christian to figure that out!

As stated in the article, I believe that what UBF believes about Jesus and the Bible is pretty orthodox, and thus not a cult. Unfortunately, what some UBF leaders practice definitely makes it a spiritually abusive cult. The present ongoing tragedy of UBF is our repeated and persistent refusal to humbly acknowledge the latter.

I am personally waiting for the day that UBF will officially say so publicly and apologize for all the cult-like abusive practices that have been going on for so many decades already, many of which have already been repeatedly documented on UBFriends, Wikepedia, Cult Awareness groups and other sites.

Until that happens, the “glory days” of UBF will be in the past, no matter how much some want to forget and ignore our past, and just blindly press on forward.

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5980 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 05:12:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5980 Recently while driving a car I listened to a news radio. It is the most popular news radio in Russia called “Moscow Echo”. They were talking about some Russian laws and somebody said, “What about those strange Baptists who refuse medical care….”. And he used the word “sect” which in Russia means “cult”. Some minutes later he apologized publicly and said, “Of course, I made a mistake, I know and all know that Baptists are not a “sect” (cult), I meant Jehovah Witnesses who are a “sect” and who refuse medical care”. Then about 10 minutes later he said, “I apologized three times already but still we have many calls about Baptists. I want to say once more, I apologize. The Baptist Church is a normal Christian church and I never meant to call it a “sect””.

I attend a Baptist church now and it was very pleasant to hear such words about the church. And what about ubf? Internet is full of articles and testimonies that ubf is a cult. In my city pastors from all churches gather together from time to time but they never heard about ubf. Some Baptist pastors heard about ubf from some sisters who left our chapter in 1996, and the pastors openly say that ubf is a cult. (Though they would never say that even about orthodox and charismatic churches with which they have some sharp disagreements).

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5965 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 11:39:14 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5965 Yes, Timothy, I know that most of the Moscow chapter shepherds are mild and gentle. Still there are some who learn from the missionaries very well. I think that the condition and character of the shepherd is a fruit of ubf missionaries. For the missionaries it was natural to call me “Satan” when I left ubf. Then they said that I am a good Christian but if anyone from our chapter would talk to me then “Satan works powerfully through talks with him”. How would Satan work powerfully through a talk with a good Christian?! )) But this is a ubf reality.

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By: Timothy Ha http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5959 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 04:18:08 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5959 >> Vitaly, So sorry to hear this coming from a Moscow shepherd.

Same here. Hard to believe that could come from a Moscow shepherd. Moscow disciples aren’t so “hard-core” guys, from what I can observe.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5958 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 22:05:04 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5958 Also, as an Asian, our missionaries have such an overpowering “debtor’s ethic,” which sounds biblical but is really not.

In their mind, they suffered and sacrificed so much for “you sheep.” Of course, their blind spot is that they cannot see or cannot acknowledge that it is also for their own sense of honor or accomplishment to be a “fruitful missionary with many sheep.”

So, in their mind, “you owe them (and UBF) for life.” In my opinion, some missionaries cannot get out of this mind set. So they suffer as much pain and wounds from being betrayed by “you sheep running away after receiving everything,” just as you suffered from their authoritarian “just obey” abuse.

Again, this only proves that the Bible is true when it says that “all have sinned and fall short” (Rom 3:23). Even our missionaries fall short and desperately need Jesus just as much as “you sheep.”

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5957 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 21:41:57 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5957 While not trying to defend the missionaries, I will simply say that they are sinners too who sin in real ways. But unfortunately, their culture, their deeply entrenched hierarchy (and their sinful pride) prevents them from being able to be humbly acknowledge their “spiritual abuses,” duplicity and working for a ROI!

As I stated in this article, I believe that they are truly well intentioned (imperfectly of course), and perhaps because of that they can’t see how all their serving and sacrifice for sheep is really a selfish filthy rag (Isa 64:6).

So, you understand that they need Jesus too. Perhaps they do too in their own hearts, except that they perhaps cannot admit it to others. They especially definitely cannot admit it openly, and definitely not on UBFriends (where they likely feel that they are being crucified as martyrs unfairly)!

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5956 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:58:19 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5956 No, Dr.Ben, I am not on facebook. But I have at least two American friends on VK (Russian version of facebook which is much better btw)). They are Maria Peace and Sheryl Corrado. Both of them speak some Russian. Sheryl worked for IFES when I was a student. For some months she was my teacher and taught me “gonna” and “wanna” )) And she openly expressed her concerns to me about ubf. She said, “I don’t like this… I think it is not biblical… I think it is not good… It is strange… It is not normal…”. Why didn’t I listen to her at the very beginning of my acquaintance with ubf?!

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5955 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:49:08 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5955 Why do “love” and smiles of ubf missionaries toward students they fish change one day for open hatred and curse toward former ubf members? Maybe this short article gives some explanation. What do you think?

http://www.watchman.org/cults/lovebomb.htm

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5954 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 13:17:34 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5954 [So in my case, I “separated” from ubf in 2003, to get some breathing room. I tried to live as a house church. I made every possible effort I could to make the relationship work, and hoped to work things out. But in 2011, things hadn’t worked out and so I “filed for divorce” from ubf.]

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5952 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 12:48:02 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5952 I’m glad you shared this example, Vitaly, for two reasons:

1. Your story is a wake-up call for ubfers, many of whom probably think “We never do things like that” or “That stuff only happened in the ’70s with Slee.” But you (and I) are living examples of the dual nature of ubf missionaries in the current time. Be loyal to ubf missionaries and the ubf heritage, and you’ll get the “kimchee” side of the directors. Post on ubfriends or ask some questions about something that bothers your conscience, and you’ll get the “dear Leader” side.

2. Your story demonstrates the level of commitment ubf missionaries ask. Some third party pastors in America made some brief contact with ubf around 2005 to 2007. They claimed that ubf is just a “high demand” group that is focused on a holy life of discipline. But those pastors failed to see the dark, “hotel California” side of ubf. They didn’t realize ubf missionaries expect you to “marry” ubf. My wife and I feel that we didn’t just marry each other, we married ubf. This explain why we former members have such a difficult time moving on or even to leave, because it is like a divorce. In reality, we had to divorce ourselves from ubf in order to save our marriage and family life.

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5951 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 12:04:05 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5951 To clear out, Dr.Ben, Prov.2:16-22 describes a very attractive invitation for a young man, but a very dangerous one in the result. )) I saw how missionaries smile so nicely before young students and it seems very difficult to discern if there is any danger behind the smile. When some students accept ubf invitation they don’t know what kind of organization they have stepped into and what possible future is awaiting them.

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By: Chris http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5950 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 08:34:40 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5950 Generally, yes, “missionaries are truly genuinely hospitable and warmly embracing and welcoming people”. But, as Vitaly already said, this is often tainted and spoiled by limiting the invitation to those who promise the most “return of investment”, preferrable young stundents who are vulnerable, alone, naive or in a life crisis. I remember the wife of our chapter director telling me how much they served the “Abraham of faith” for years, even letting him live in their home, and then she concluded, pointing to his faithfulness and devotion to UBF and absolute obedience to the chapter director, how much this “investment payed off” (yes, she really used these words). This spoils the whole thing for both sides. You should consider twice whether you accept and invitation for a meal or common life if people have such motives. In the end they will use it to point out how much they served you and that now you owe them so much and must pay back with eternal loyalty and thankfulness. The point is, raising such loyal followers is the whole goal of UBF, so even those who want to show *genuine* love and hospitality, are inevitably tainted by this, and cannot be sure even themselves how much their servantship is genuine and unconditional and how much it is because it just serves a goal of raising disciples. Again, this is not their problem, but the problem of the system they are commited to. In many ways, as Vitaly said, it drives people into becoming hypocrites, even if they are actually good people.

Sure, there are examples where UBF people have also served not-so-young not-so-promising people who were not in the target group of elite students. But this happens often out of desperation, because it’s better for a missionaries or shepherd to have at least one sheep instead of having nobody. And as you know, Samuel Lee then told these missionaries or shepherds to send their sheep away, because they were “uncle sheep” or “other sheep” (too old or wrong race, i.e. not Korean or Caucasian). The wife of my chapter director also sent several people away who did not fit in the target scheme, and encouraged others to do so. I also remember a story told by Samuel Lee in the newsletter, how UBF once at Christmas cooked a meal for lepers in Korea, and how they forced these people to attend because they were not used to such love. The crucial point here is that this was a one-time-event. After Christimas was over, nobody in UBF continued to care for the fate of these people. They were just used as trainings object by Lee to teach people his “serving spirit”, and to make an example out of them to show how good UBF is, but when the meal was over, they were left alone. Nobody continued to invite them to meals or make Bible study with them, because they did not promise any return of investment.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5949 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 03:52:03 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5949 I’m not sure how Prov 2:16-22 relate to what you are saying?

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5948 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 03:21:55 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5948 Vitaly, So sorry to hear this coming from a Moscow shepherd.

To give him the benefit of the doubt, he may be a true Christian who loves Jesus. But perhaps he bought the “UBF lie” that once you become committed to UBF, you can NEVER EVER LEAVE (without getting slammed and condemned)!

The greatest tragedy of this lie is that it denies the gospel of Christ that gives freedom. It also promotes a slavery to UBF (to build up our own earthly UBF kingdom), though the intention may be to promote faithfulness and loyalty. It fails to exercise and display love and grace, but communicates the sickness of control and manipulation that is so common of any “shepherding” movement.

Really sorry about this. Do love and forgive him for this, which you may have already done so.

btw, Vitaly, are you on facebook?

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5946 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 02:18:32 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5946 (What flaws me daily with awe and trembling is that though my wife knows virtually all of my sins and shortcomings, yet she still loves me. This compels me more than ever to want to change and improve for Jesus and for her.)
After I left one of the Moscow shepherds sent me a letter. He wrote, “Even when I am not quite well with my wife I am not able to pray well, but how can you live and have relatoinship with God if you are not well with your missionaries?!!!”
(btw with “truly genuine hospitality” which he learnt from his missionaries he wrote, “I believe that before anyone else leaves your chapter God will destroy you, your family and your children”.

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5944 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 02:11:13 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5944 Yes, Ben, I agree with “many of our missionaries are truly genuinely hospitable and warmly embracing and welcoming people who want to invite you into their own family, as well as the family of UBF”. But all this is to YOUNG people, not just people. And I don’t think that they are “truly genuinely” hospitable. I saw so much hipocrisy in our chapter missionaries that I can’t trust such hospitality at all. It reminds me of Prov 2:16-22.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5943 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 23:21:42 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5943 Thanks, Brian. Your distinction is excellently stated!

As I’ve expressed often, I believe that our UBF missionaries do love Jesus. But their Christian love, like ours, is clearly imperfect, and usually becomes increasingly more obvious and unpalatable with time.

(What flaws me daily with awe and trembling is that though my wife knows virtually all of my sins and shortcomings, yet she still loves me. This compels me more than ever to want to change and improve for Jesus and for her.)

I believe that many of our missionaries today are tired; they are experiencing their own sins and limitations after many decades. They either face up and own up to it and be liberated with new life from above—or they can stubbornly cling to their past and become increasingly obsolete and irrelevant.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5942 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 21:05:24 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5942 Ben, your words express the beginning of one of the most important distinctions we need to make in regard to ubf:

“That is the power and attractiveness of Christian hospitality plus the strong spirit of communalism which is quite prevalent in Asian and middle eastern countries.”

There is a power of Christian hospitality and there is a power of Asian communalism. The two seem similar, almost indistinguishable at first. But what is the difference?

> Christian hospitality is rooted in freedom and justice, and yields people who becomes slaves to righteousness under the Lordship of Jesus and personal direction of the Holy Spirit.

> Asian communlism is rooted in loyalty and obedience, and yields people who become slaves to the community under the authority of a leader and personal direction from a human director and/or some sort of community spirit.

If you read the 50th Anniversary book lectures,you will see this Asian communalism described very well.

These things are so clear to me now, but for many years I could not make this distinction. This distinction highlights the reasons why I think we should be preaching the gospel to ubf missionaries and shepherds.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5941 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 20:43:35 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5941 Hi Vitaly,

I hope you do not mind that I paragraphed your comments for easier reading.

To be fair, I think, as many have said, that when one is approached by a missionary, no one suspects anything, because I believe that many of our missionaries are truly genuinely hospitable and warmly embracing and welcoming people who want to invite you into their own family, as well as the family of UBF.

That is the power and attractiveness of Christian hospitality plus the strong spirit of communalism which is quite prevalent in Asian and middle eastern countries.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5940 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 16:27:19 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5940 Great question Vitaly! “would ubf successfully fish you now?”

My answer: Not a chance. никогда. nunca. ніколи. jamais.

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By: Vitaly http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-5939 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 16:01:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-5939 I am trying to understand why ubf “serves” students. I remember SL’s story about the beginning of ubf. He became a pastor. In the church there were many elders and 6 students. The elders didn’t like Lee but he thought about how to help the students. Then he started ubf with the 6 students. I suppose that it was difficult to manipulate the elders but to “serve” students was much easier.

I know how they do “fishing” in Korea. For example if you are a student and you stop a younger (even 1 day younger) student in campus, the younger one MUST stop and listen to you until you allow him to go. I haven’t heard about ubf fishing when a younger one would fish an elder one. When ubf people go out as missionaries they are not students and they are going to “serve” students who are younger. And the students will always be younger. But such things wouldn’t work long outside Korea.

In Russia former ubfers say that usually when people are over 30-35 they leave ubf. When people become older in non-korean atmosphere they are not going to “just obey”. In Korea they would. Sometimes I think that Korean ubf missionaries left Korea because they wanted to leave Korean culture for a better one. Of course, “to serve perishing American and European students” is an official motto, but what is the reality? Why are more than 85% of ubf missionaries eager to “serve students” in the countries that are the best the most developed western countries and the most Christian countries in the world? And why students? Why not just serve “perishing unspiritual selfish Americans”, all of them? Maybe because adult Americans wouldn’t listen to a Korean teacher who wants to control their life?

Joe, once you shared that now the usual ubf methods don’t work in your life. Why? Is it not because you became older and not so blindly obedient? I’d like to ask, If you would never meet ubf before and if ubf would be an organization using its usual methods but serving all (not only students) “perishing Americans”; would ubf successfully fish you now? What do you think? Thanks.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4586 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 11:13:39 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4586 Just to clarify further for our readers (I think you already understand this, Ben!). I do not think it would be a good idea to change all ubf chapters to look like Westloop. That would be disastrous because Westloop has been developing programs/idea/concepts/etc fitting for the people at Westloop.

I’m preparing a ubfriends article for your review Ben that describes my ideas about “redeemed UBF”.

My main point is that UBF (and all churches for that matter) need something more than reformation. If a church is not redeemed continually, it dies and falls apart. Reformation is good and needed at times, but is not the solution. The gospel message is rooted in redemption. And reformation without redemption is hopeless and at times even dangerous.

I was edified significantly the times I’ve worshiped, shared and visited with Westloop UBF, not because you’ve reformed anything ( perhaps you have), but because I saw evidence of redemption. I’ll share more in my article soon.

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By: Ben Toh http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4582 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 19:39:02 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4582 Thanks, Brian. I’ve not heard of West Loop UBF being referred to as “redeemed UBF.” But it does have a nice ring to it!

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4579 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 14:02:40 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4579 Agreed, Phil25!

To make things clear: I do not think UBF should be destroyed. I do not think UBF can be reformed.

I do believe and trust that UBF can be redeemed. What would a redeemed UBF look like? I don’t know, but one example of redeemed UBF is Westloop UBF. I have not visited Penn State UBF but I would suspect is too is redeemed. Redeemed UBF is what I seek. Someone recently asked me if I would accept funds from UBF to attend a leadership seminar. I said no, but I would gladly *give* UBF all my money if they would just replace their authority structure with the grace of God.

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By: Phil 2 Five http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4578 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 00:20:48 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4578 Thanks for sharing your painful experience! I do agree that we need more people to stand up for what is right, just and biblical! And as you mentioned there are many people who are doing so, standing up for what is true and biblical!

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4577 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 23:59:45 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4577 Continuing this thought about struggle… I say we need many more people in UBF to participate in a relentless nonviolent resistance movement. If you want to know what it is like to go outside the gate to meet Jesus (like Hebrews 13 directs us) or what it is like to “be crucified” for your beliefs, start openly discussing some of the topics we’ve covered on ubfriends with your shepherd or director.

I hope that many more after me may not have such a rough time. And by the way, we all owe a BIG apology and thank you to Chris (who is commenting here), his wife, James and Rebekah Kim, Vitaly and his wife, David B. and his wife, and many many more such as Ben and Christy, Joe and Sharon, all who paved the way before us with far greater struggles.

Here is the process I went through in 2011:

1. I asked some questions and raised some issues (via a conference report) after observing some problems for several years and hearing the stories of coworkers in UBF who confided in me (April 2011)

2. I received a rather harsh verbal rebuke immediately and told it was “none of my business” since I was wanting to know about my friends in a different chapter.

3. I asked more questions via email and phone (and to be fair I sometimes got extremely angry myself)

4. I received very harsh emails (at this point it became clear I would not be welcome in UBF unless I stopped asking questions about past and current events that troubled me)

5. After numerous attempts at dialogue (which ended in “shut up and go away” commands), I could no longer find any role in UBF.

6. The 50th anniversary material was published (June 2011)

7. I could not accept the new direction in the 50th Anniversary material, and told others about it.

8. I decided to make it clear that I left UBF and resigned permanently. I had hours of in-person meetings (even with Sarah Barry) and phone calls and emails. So I sent email to over 200 UBF leaders saying I resigned (August 2011).

So that is the 4 month “process”.

After this process, Chicago leadership tried to convince me to stay and find some role. I said no.

Other leaders in UBF told me to just be a rogue chapter, and do my own thing. I said no.

Some secret reformers in UBF tried to convince me to stay and help them secretly reform UBF. I said no.

Our hope is only in redemption, not reform or destruction. Our family found a good grace-centered Bible-believing church locally in July 2011. We’ve not stopped going and I’m beginning to serve there.

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By: Phil 2 Five http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4576 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 23:32:43 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4576 Thank you for sharing Brian! Great quote and indeed much to consider and learn from! The beginning of that quote really caught my attention: “If there is no struggle, there is no progress…” Indeed progress does not come without struggle, suffering and sacrifice. A quote by Charles Spurgeon, “The Christian life is very much like climbing a hill of ice. You cannot slide up. You have to cut every step with an ice axe. Only with incessant labor in cutting and chipping can you make any progress. If you want to know how to backslide, leave off going forward. Cease going upward and you will go downward of necessity. You can never stand still.” This does not only apply in one’s personal life but also in a church. Unless there’s serious discussions about the issues brought up on this site, I’m afraid there wont be any progress. Thanks again Brian for the quote! :)

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4572 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 22:50:20 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4572 Phil25, I noticed you quoted quite a few people. Here are some of my favorite quotes, from Frederick Douglass, an American abolitionist, editor, orator, author, statesman and reformer; and a man who was born as a slave.

I would hope our readers would take note of one fact: Many of us former members find much strength and consolation in people like Frederick Douglass, William Wilberforce and William Wallace. Their struggles have so many parallels with our struggles with UBF directors and UBF ideology. That should give you some direction as to what actions to take while you are a member of UBF.

In addition to quotes like the one below, many movies have been helpful to many of us, movies that have striking parallels to our situation. Maybe if more ubf members watched these movies and tried to see things from another point of view, you could start to understand the plight of an ex-member of UBF. Our situation is not “cute” or “funny” but rather serious, fraught with psychological, spiritual, emotional and relational difficulties. Most of us, especially me, are just getting to know our spouses for the first time in decades.

Here is the Douglass quote:

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom, and yet depreciate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground. They want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters.

This struggle may be a moral one; or it may be a physical one; or it may be both moral and physical; but it must be a struggle.

Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will. Find out just what a people will submit to, and you have found out the exact amount of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them; and these will continue till they are resisted with either words or blows, or with both.

The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress. Men may not get all they pay for in this world; but they must pay for all they get. If we ever get free from all the oppressions and wrongs heaped upon us, we must pay for their removal. We must do this by labor, by suffering, by sacrifice, and, if needs be, by our lives, and the lives of others.”

(source: West India Emancipation on 8/4/1857)

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4571 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 22:37:28 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4571 I would second your observations Chris. I’ve shared my thoughts extensively on the reform movements already:

Thoughts on UBF reform

In regard to Mr. Armstrong, I feel that I must share that he indeed knows that the problems ubf faces are far deeper than culture clashes. In fact I was in a meeting with him discussing these very same things that you mention Chris. He had a sort of “eureka” moment where he realized that one big problem with ubf is the Moses style leadership, which is far beyond mere culture clashes, which happen everywhere and can be overcome. Moses passing the baton to Joshua however… that’s an entirely different set of problems to deal with.

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By: Chris http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4569 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 22:06:35 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4569 Lorie, thanks for joining the discussion! I think your (and Mr. Armstrong’s) belief that the *main* problem of UBF is being too Korean, or more specifically, imposing Korean style on Americans, is not true. I have already mentioned this, but I’m not getting tired of repeating my argument: The point is that the typical UBF problems appear not only in America, but everywhere UBF is operating, including Korea itself. The first UBF reform movement appeared already in 1976, where 7 top *Korean* UBF leaders “rebelled” against Samuel Lee. So I believe the problem is not the “Korean style” but the “Samuel Lee style”. These people were Koreans, yet they noticed that something went fundamentally wrong. Unfortunately, UBF internally never talks about these events and the documents about that would have been lost if they had not been republished during the 3rd reform movement in 2001 which also orginated in Korea, not in America, and it was mainly the Koreans who wanted the reforms, first in Korea itself, then in America, Germany and many other countries. I myself witnessed how 10 years ago more than half of the Korean UBFers and chapters in Germany tried to achieve a reform with valid and serious concerns, but they were branded as rebels and then finally kicked out. So if you say the core of the problems is Koreans imposing on Americans, why then were the Koreans those who complained in the first 3 reform movements? And it were not only the young Koreans who wanted the reform, but particularly the senior Koreans. I think this behavior of imposing Korean culture is only a subproblem, not the real problem. Btw, if you haven’t read at least some of the documents and open letters of the 3 reform movements, please try to do so now. It helps a lot understanding the root problems of UBF. Unfortunately, UBF directors and their lawyers try to threaten and shut down websites that publish these documents, but I hope you still can find some of them.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4567 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 21:42:02 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4567 Fair enough, Phil25, fair enough.

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By: Phil 2 Five http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4566 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 20:35:05 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4566 Good point Brian! Genuine love cannot be faked! Also genuine love will manifest itself in action (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a). Again, I also believe that humility is the manifestation of genuine love. Patience, kindness, selflessness, sacrifice (time, money, etc…), are all manifestations of genuine love which we see in Jesus. As Adrian Rogers said, “You can sing all you want about how you love Jesus, you can have crocodile tears in your eyes, but the consecration that doesn’t reach your purse has not reached your heart.” Now about humility! Perhaps humility can be faked too! But again, genuine humility will manifest itself in action (1 John 3:16). As John Stott quotes, “The very first thing which needs to be said about Christian ministers of all kinds is that they are “under” people as their servants rather than “over” them (as their leaders, let alone their lords). Jesus made this absolutely plain. The chief characteristic of Christian leaders, he insisted, is humility not authority, and gentleness not power.” Jesus humility manifested itself in service (Mark 10:45). So if love is genuine, it will manifest itself in humility, and humility if genuine, will manifest itself in service.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4562 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 18:03:25 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4562 Interesting thoughts, Phil25. In my mind and observation, it is easy to fake humility and nearly impossible to fake love. I would say it is possible to be humble and not have love. People can act humbly, and others can see through such a veil of humility. But I think humans cannot pretend to love. Children know if parents love them or not regardless of talk or action.

This gets into the pathos level of humanity. We humans somehow have the ability to fake a lot of things, but I just don’t see how love can be faked.

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By: Phil 2 Five http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4561 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 17:24:03 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4561 Brian,

I do agree with what you are saying! Love is the gospel message (Luke 10:27) I also believe that true love manifests itself through humility. God’s love manifested through Christ humility according to (Philippians 2:5-8) and (1 John 3:16). Rick Warren quoted, “Pride builds walls between people, humility builds bridges.” All the failed attempts to reform UBF point to lack of love manifested in humility. D.L. Moody said, “A man can counterfeit love, he can counterfeit faith, he can counterfeit hope and all the other graces, but it is very difficult to counterfeit humility.” People can pretend to love! How does love prove itself as genuine love–humility! I’m not talking about blind submission to someone or some ideology. I’m talking about true love for each other as brothers and sisters in Christ will prove itself authentic by a way of humility. What do you think?

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4560 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 17:21:13 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4560 Well-said Lorie! I have always believed that women should have a greater voice in UBF. On another note, I definitely appreciate Gideon’s friendship as well!

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By: Lorie http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4558 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 14:08:54 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4558 In short, we need to start at the UBF HQ and staff meetings. And the issues that need to be focused on are: 1) addressing how traditions are causing us to break the first two commandments 2) missionaries need to properly be trained at the HQ office.

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By: Lorie http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4557 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 14:01:24 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4557 Brian, I’m sorry you weren’t respected, especially as you were a good leader. I think many were surprised at your exodus and it brought some attention. I respect the fact you’re on here communicating with Ben and Joe and others, bringing some light to the table.

Actually, I haven’t been attending staff meetings because we have four kids, but Gideon has gone to some of them. So, I’m not sure what goes on there, and anyway I don’t think I’d have a big influence. But people like Joe and Ben would, or I would think they would. It’s a matter of communicating with others, and this website is a good start. I believe the purpose of this website is to promote peace and understanding, but we also need action.

In Chicago, some of the CBF leaders pushed for a change in how CBF was handled. Some of those changes that I personally was interested in finally happened. So my point is, it’s a matter of continuous trying and praying, and we need to involve the right people. I would love to see change and not just talk about it. We need to continue to talk about it, pray about it, and take action, but in a civilized manner as we are the body of Christ. God will answer because this is ultimately his church; it’s just a matter of time.

John Armstrong said some great things about UBF, but he said there were two big issues that hinders UBF from being effective in America. Those were 1) UBF didn’t interact with other churches. 2) UBF had a lot of Korean traditions. Of course, I know there are many other issues, many of which have been discussed in this website, but I think the many of them stem from Korean traditions. Now it’s my understanding that Dr. Abraham T. Kim is working on the first issue, and I know that the second issue is being talked about.

I believe our main weapon in fighting this issue is simply we need to go back to the Bible, particularly, the Ten Commandments. Putting a shepherd over someone and making them as “god” over a sheep is breaking the first commandment: “Thou shall have no other gods before me.” It’s okay to disciple them, but instructing them in the details of their life as God’s direction is taking the place of God. Our job is to point the sheep to God and teach them to listen to the Holy Spirit. We can give them counsel pointing them to God’s word. The second commandment is “Thou shall not make for yourself carved image…” This is idol worship. Idols back then were carved, but I like what Tullian Tchividjian said, we can make anything into an idol, even our own children. Whatever takes precedence over depending upon God and his word is idol worship. Paul talked about this in some of his letters. He was making a distinction between serving God versus traditions and what is the true Gospel versus false teaching. And this is what we need to bring to the table.

In addition, we need use an example of an exemplary missionary who got it right when it came to converting natives in another country and request proper missionary training. Before Hudson Taylor went to China, other missionaries who came taught the Chinese the Bible along with mandating them to follow their culture. It didn’t work. Now Korean missionaries have been able to raise up some disciples, but with a lot of chaos and hurt amongst everyone. Korean traditions are fine, but shouldn’t be imposed on Americans as Christian living. There ought to be some type of missionary training course taught to our missionaries so they know what to and what not to do. I don’t know where Korean missionaries are trained, but if they get trained at the headquarters, then a lot of prevention can begin.

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4556 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 12:33:26 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4556 Those are 3 very good people to listen to Ben! I don’t know much about Garrison, but Newbigin and Allan continually come up in my journey.

I suppose UBF leaders will point to numerous cases where national leaders are indeed “leading”. But those leaders probably won’t point out the figurehead nature or just-for-statistics reasons for appointing such leaders.

Jesus said “not so with you”, yet UBF continues to say “it is so with us.”

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By: Brian Karcher http://www.ubfriends.org/2012/09/10/are-ubf-leaders-cult-leaders/#comment-4555 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 12:25:08 +0000 http://www.ubfriends.org/?p=5053#comment-4555 Phil25:

“Bottom line I believe is this: Humility.”

>>> I would tend to agree on the importance of humility. But I do not see humility as the bottom line. In Eastern thought religions, yes humility is indeed the bottom line. However, for us Christians, love is the bottom line. Faith, hope and love remain, but love is the greatest. To be a friend to sinners and enemies and those who disagree or are different from us is far more valuable and Christ-like than humbly submitting to someone or some ideology. When you think humility is the bottom line, you are on your way to developing the han syndrome. That is not the gospel message Jesus brought.

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